Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Am I a Hopeless Romantic?

Have women today really gotten to the point where all they want to do is "seal the deal with a shiny ring"?

I'm sitting at my apartment, reading Rolling Stone having a GREAT snow day (I'm trying to make the most of it, since "grown-ups" rarely get a good snow day) when I turn the page and see Beyonce. I became interested because I thought Beyonce was a great role model for younger girls, that was until she decided to start singing about "If I were a boy" and all that crap. So, I start reading this article which happens to be about the Singles of the Year, music singles...not single people. Anyway, the #1 single of 2008 is "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)" by Beyonce. REALLY?!?!?!?!

I became angry, my roomate (who is also at home enjoying a snow day) got a bit frightened when I walked over to the fireplace and threw the entire magazine in the fire. She began to wonder why I had gotten soooo pissed over a damn magazine.

I began on a rant, somehow I remembered verbatim what the magazine had said..."her lesson is blunt: Seal the deal. With a shiny ring. Or else." WHOA.

Is that what women have come to? Are they all just concerned with getting some shiny ring on their finger? I know that I could care less about a f'n ring on my finger, and I think my BFF Rose would agree... I would like to think that most women are not just concerned about getting married, I would like to think that they are concerned with finding the one person who makes them swoon, the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. Then they can decide about the marriage thing. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic.

Beyonce used to be cool, singing angry woman music about how guys needed to pay their own bills and not mooch. And what about that independant women...maybe Beyonce just gave in to the whims of Destiny's Child. Those were the good days.

Beyonce, you have gone down the shitter.

WTF Mate, Your BFF, Jill


MacGirl said...

Yeah I completely understand what you are talking about. However Beyonce has never been cool in my book. Even when she was in Destinys Child I was like god I hate you. I have no intention of getting married so the least of my worries is a stupid ring. I find that a lot of people get married for the ring, not because they love someone and want to spend the rest of their lives with them, but because they want that shiny piece of jewelry. In my opinion marriage is a huge fucking joke (especially in america), and I don't care to waste my time with it.

Rose and Jill said...

You know my feelings on this. I'll tell you what. I'm not rushing. Once you hit mid 20's as soon as you have a boyfriend it's all "are you going to marry him? when do you want to get married?" Complete and utter bull shit.


HappyHourSue said...

I like Beyonce until she said she'd like her fans to call her "Sasha Fierce".

and I said, "No, Beyonce, I won't be doing that."

adlibby said...

Sasha Whatever! I totally agree -- that song is so God-awful that I thought it was a parody or a joke or something the first couple of times I heard it. Seriously?!

Listen, I'm on the other side of the fence now (though I still feel like i should be 20-something sometimes) and marriage can be great... but it can also be the end of a lot of possibilities. And a bad choice in this department is a freakin' life sentence... so she should be singin' "Don't rush to the ring. Find a man who is worthy of you, who supports your dreams and who won't bore you to tears ten years later." Put that in a damn song and shake your booty at it Sasha Fierce!

Great blog!

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