Wednesday, March 4, 2009

A Little Help from my Friends

I woke up this morning and thought to myself "Good God, is it really only Wednesday?" I had to wake up my roommate just to find out what day it was. I was seriously confused. It has been the longest week ever, already!

Anyway, Rose is going through it. I'm not going to explain what happened or anything because it's just not my place to do it. However, I can say this...keep her in your thoughts. She needs some good Karma to come her way. Rose--I love you with all of my heart. Go on a cruise...or better yet. Maryland July 2009. Consider it.

This may seem inconsiderate because of Rose's break-up, but I seriously need some insight from y'all on this situation...and if you are a guy, I really need your insight (DWP Imma talking to you).

So, I am not a small girl by any means but I'm not a big girl either. I'm somewhere around average sized, maybe a slight bit larger. My size would be comparable to Kailee O'Sullivan.

Anyway, I have found myself completely attracted to a guy who is much smaller than me. I would have no problem trying to date this guy if he were my size or larger. I don't know why I think it's weird. He's probably a good 75 lbs smaller than I said I'm not a small girl. He is however taller than me by a couple of inches. So, anyway..what are y'alls thoughts on this. Is it weird to date a guy who is smaller than you?

The next thing about this guy is that he is 3 years (and for half of the year, 4 years) younger than me. He acts a lot more mature than a guy who is 20. He has several older brothers and grew up hanging out with them, so he has learned to be mature about things. I realize that it's a decision that must be made taking the two people into consideration, but if you were to date someone younger how young would you go?

So, I don't even know if this guy likes me. I just don't want to waste my time on something that could end up being bad or awkward...he is one of my friends, so I don't want to mess up a friendship as well.

Relationships are way too confusing...this is why I tend just to stick to not being in them.
Any help/advice you all have is greatly appreciated. If you want you can send your responses to

Thanks a million.


The Dumbest Smart Girl You Know said...

I'm medium sized (like a 10), and I've always gone for tall, skinny guys. That's so my type. The guy I'm dating now is bigger than me and I really really like it. I didn't know what I was missing! As for age, I will NOT date a younger guy, especially because I have kids. I just don't feel like they'd be able to relate AT ALL.

But you're right, everyone is different. This guy may be perfect. Give it a couple dates, see how it goes!

ZomBee said...

In this case size does not matter.

My wife is a 10-12 and I am tall and slim. All that matters is what YOU feel and think.
but, If you feel self-conscious about it then it will suck for both of you.
as for age, I prefer older women myself but I have dated 10 years younger before.
all that matters is what YOU think and feel.
No one else matters.

Melissa said...

I hope rose is doing ok. Oh..emailed ya.

Gina said...

Go for it! I know a couple that sounds like you and this guy would be together and they are ADORABLE together. But if you do, no self-consciousness (is that a word?) allowed!!!

The Passionate Book Worm said...

Seriously, I say go for it!! I don't think it matters in the slightest. As for age, I wouldn't date anyone any more than 3-4 years younger than me. But of course, some people mature faster than others. See where it goes and have fun with it.

Katie said...

If you are comfortable with it, then I'm sure it will be just fine. If every time you look at him all you can think about is how he's smaller than you, then it probably won't work so well.

As for age...I used to think I wouldn't date a younger guy, but I guess it all depends on the PERSON. I think it's more about where he is in his life...if he's ready for what you're ready for, then age is not as much of a factor.

Dating Without Pants said...

I'm a pretty thin guy (145 lbs, 6'0") and it's never been a problem. I've been with a couple girls who were probably a little bigger than me and it's not a big deal. I'm not really a fan of dating girls years older than me though, but maybe that's just me.

Janet said...

As far as the size, you're attracted to what you're attracted to, and there's nothing right or wrong or good or bad. Just chemistry. I am only 5 feet tall, and I have always been more attracted to really big guys, like 6 feet or taller, football player sized guys. Little skinny guys do nothing for me.

The age thing, I would totally date a guy three years younger than me, BUT I am 37! In my twenties, I wouldn't have dated someone that much younger. No offense guys, but boys do GENERALLY mature more slowly.

My two cents.

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