Thursday, November 12, 2009

the un-tag

Tonight I finally did it: I deleted and untagged all the Sam & Rose pictures on facebook. It took for.ev.er. (I removed him as my friend months ago when it was still to hard to see skanks posting pictures with him & writing on his wall)

I have no feelings for him at this point. We can't be friends. Since I ended it, I find him to be a pompous and arrogant asshole. When hearts are broken, people change. He changed...and in my opinion not for the better (but does that even matter? no.) Some people are able to walk away from relationships with knowledge they didn't previously have & others, well they don't.

Things I learned:
-I learned that letting your boyfriend buy you a yorkie after dating for 3 months is not a good idea; the dog will be the one caught in the middle.
-I learned that divorcees = disaster (at least for me!)
-I learned to NEVER change myself for the person I'm dating, it will only bite me in the ass later.
-I learned the qualities I need in a relationship (and the ones I don't want!).
-I learned to still schedule times to be with my friends; I'll regret it when we've grown apart.
-I learned to go into relationships with eyes wide open.
-I learned that I am lovable.
-I learned that my family and friends do know me better than I think and I should value and listen to their opinions.
-I learned to rely on other people
-I learned it's way more fun to roadtrip with a best friend to a wedding than to go with a boyfriend (Holla, Jill!)
-I learned that heavily medicating myself does work, but only for a short amount of time...sooner or later I'll have to deal.
-I learned that it is possible to start life over.

Looking back, I think I always knew it wouldn't work. I wouldn't change it though. If nothing else, it was one helluva learning experience.

xoxo,
Rose

10 comments:

Andhari said...

Good for you to realize all these and get up again. I'm sorry if the process is painful for you ( self medicating is a sign ) and I've been there where I have to readjust myself to meet friends and people again. I never wanna lose my friends because of a man again. Family and friends are surely the ones who know you first and best :) you'll survive, Rose.:)

Organic Meatbag said...

The untagging of Facebook photos is always the last cord to be cut...it is a nice virtual way of saying "You have been served and you were always an inadequate lover"...

Lil' Woman said...

I was going to say something and then I read Meatbag's and he pretty much hit the nail on the head!! lol

Little T said...

It is af if you were reading my mind with this post. I am experiencing a break-up myself and I have been listing what I have learned as well. Our lists are dangerously close. It is comforting to know I am not the only one and we will survive! The best is yet to come. I firmly believe that!

Gina said...

Gotta love the healing process. Good for you.

The Not-So-Eligible Bachelor said...

Heya Rosie~

The journey and the learning is often the best part...

... time for a new chapter, yeah?

I always find it exciting to think, "What's next?"

Whatever it is - I am sure it will kick lots of ass.

Cheers,
Not-so

Divorce Salon said...

Great way to look at it, learning and moving forward. Divorcees may not be good for you right now. Divorced men, and women for that matter, get better with time.
Cheers,
djv
http://divorcesalon.blogspot.com

Bridget said...

I am really behind on commenting (sorry!). Good for you! It takes a lot of strength and I know from personal experience how difficult it can be.

Glamour Girl said...

You are wise beyond your years. You learned exactly what any happy and HEALTHY person should in times of a break up. We could all learn something off that list from YOU. Hope you are doing well!

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